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3 Questions Selfies Can’t Answer

04.04.16 | Selfie

Each day, people take 93 million selfies and check social media 100 billion times. Young people will take more than 25,000 selfies in their lifetime. Why are we so obsessed?

According to psychologists, we’re looking for an avenue to fulfill the need to boost our self-esteem, and we often find it on our social media pages. At their root, selfies are about self-definition and image management. They allow us to project an image that says, “I’m important, and my life is really significant.”

This happens because we’re all really seeking to answer three deep-seated questions:

  • Who am I?
  • Where do I belong?
  • What am I supposed to do?

Why are these questions so hard to answer? To find out, we have to go all the way back to Genesis.

When It All Fell Apart

God created Adam and Eve in His image with a clear purpose and a perfect relationship with Him (Genesis 1–2). They were naked and unashamed because they didn’t have to hide or pretend or worry about disappointing each other. There were no filters on their lives.

But when they chose to turn away from God, things didn’t get better like they thought — they fell apart (Genesis 3). After that, there were three barriers to us knowing we really are.

Fear Rooted in Shame

When Adam and Eve sinned, they realized they were naked, and they experienced a sense of disappointment. So, they felt the need to cover themselves.

Just like them, we cover ourselves with designer clothes, work, expensive vacations, big houses and many other things. You don’t want people to see the real you because you are afraid they won’t like what they see. Maybe you don’t like what you see.

Hiding Rooted in Insecurity

Adam and Eve once enjoyed a great relationship with God. But once they sinned, things changed. Genesis 3:10 says that Adam hid because he knew he was naked — he was not what and who he was supposed to have been.

Your sense of insecurity and inadequacy causes you to hide too. You hide from God and from others. You’re afraid that if we knew the real you — the one nobody else sees — that they wouldn’t like you.

Blame Rooted in Denial

When God asked Adam if he ate the fruit, Adam’s response is coldblooded. He shifts the blame to Eve and ultimately to God. Eve then blames the devil.

When our insecurities and inadequacies are exposed, we rationalize our actions and blame somebody else for our failures. We say that it’s not our fault — it’s because of family, pressure, social influence, hurts and disappointments.

Where We Find Healing

We have lived in fear for so long, strapped by shame and insecurity and blame and denial, that we really don’t know who we are anymore. We don’t know where we belong and what really makes our lives significant.

So what do we do? You can either take 25,000 selfies and check your phone a few hundred times a day and see what the world says to you. Or you can look in a different place.

This is a spiritual problem, and it requires a spiritual response. Jesus came to deal with fear, shame, guilt, hiding, division and insecurity. He came to give back what our disobedience destroyed, and He restores your identity in Him.

All that sin stole, Jesus returned. And one day we will fully enjoy the face-to-face relationship with God that Adam and Eve enjoyed. God’s dwelling will be with us once again.